In fact, I think I have an easier time explaining why men do things than I do with women.I have been writing about relationships for a while now and over the years I have noticed some prominent points of confusion, ones that seem to be shared by women of all ages from all around the world (no exaggeration).I don’t know what the biggest relationship concern was back in the days of touch-tone phones, but these days, it’s all about a guy’s texting habits: why he used to text so much in the beginning and then stopped, why he takes so long to reply, why he disappears for days at a time, why his texts are so short, etc., etc.
The trick is to do it in a way that’s encouraging, not one that’s threatening, demanding, or nagging.
When he does something you like and appreciate, acknowledge it and reward him for it.
If he is there for you, if he is considerate of you, if he goes out of his way for you, if he opens up to you, he loves you. Look, I don’t think I’m making any radical claims by saying men are the less communicative of the two genders.
If you want to know where he really stands, pay closer attention to what he’s doing and put less emphasis on what he is and isn’t saying.
Hold onto your seats, ladies, this might come as a major shock: men to make you happy. I know it can sometimes feel like he’s intentionally trying to make your life more difficult, and while he may be driving you nuts, deep down all he really wants is to provide for you and give you what you need. Men aren’t women (sorry to throw another shocker at you there! They aren’t able to intuit the nuances and decipher the clues.
If you want him to give you what you want, tell him what it is that you want!
Sadly, a lot of relationships collapse before they even get off the ground because the girl can’t handle the sudden decrease in daily texts and instead of dealing with it, she lashes out at the guy and demands explanations for every text he doesn’t reply to.
The mistake that many make is thinking that the sudden drop in texts means he’s losing interest or doesn’t care. Most often, he’s just settling back into his normal routine. You can spend all day going back and forth with some guy about nonsense.
Fortunately, I’m not the selfish type and am more than happy to share everything I’ve learned.