If you’re shy and meet someone you really like, you need to do whatever it takes to summon the courage and contact that good date again. Conclusion: I believe shy people make the world a deeper and more interesting place.
Because shy men and women tend to be more introverted and more observational thinkers in the first place, not taking things seriously goes against the grain of the shy personality makeup.
But trust me when I say this: As much as a first date seems to matter in the moment, you have to put it all in perspective.
The main themes of what shy people do in dating include waiting, being passive, and not letting their true personality show. He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction.
When he’s out with my friends he comes off as cold and disinterested, and as a result, they’re reluctant to hang out when they know he will be there.
They often get stuck thinking too much about how the other person will receive the advance instead of simply taking the plunge and going for it.
They sometimes don’t seek out their guy or girl for a second date – even when they’re still interested.
Instead of waiting to hear what your date suggests, have a couple ideas in mind before you actually start planning with him or her.
Say, “I’m not sure if this is your thing, but if you want to eat, we could try this place I like; if you would prefer to do some sort of activity, we could do a movie or walk through a museum.” By taking an active approach in dating, you won’t default to your shy ways as easily.
Try to remember to relax on a date, because it’s only when you can let yourself relax that you can also let yourself flirt.