I would love to say that loneliness and isolation only come with being married to an athlete that plays abroad and that life would be easier if he played in America, but having also experienced that, I can honestly say that while it is different, it comes with a unique set of challenges.My husband played in the NBA and the NBA D-League, and both come with their own stressors such as groupies, call ups (or lack thereof), trade deadlines, cuts and, again, being forced to spend a great deal of time alone because your mate is either traveling, training or mentally and physically exhausted.These are only a handful of the issues that come along with being in a relationship with someone in this industry.
Also, I don't take for granted being able to travel the world and learn so much about other cultures with the man I love by my side.
Moreover, I look forward to every summer when my husband gets two to three months off (as opposed to the two weeks or less of vacation time he would likely get if he worked a "normal" job) that we can spend traveling and catching up with friends and family.
I was alone when he went to practices and team events.
I was alone when he slept until the late afternoon on his (few and far between) days off because he was mentally and physically drained from playing two basketball games each week.
Our lifestyle has inspired me to create my blog, establish a travel itinerary planning service, launch a t-shirt line, and do so many other things that I never thought I would.
But, I also recognize that I've sacrificed a lot for my husband's career and realize that the reason that I'm OK with those sacrifices is because I married for love and I get to spend my life with a man that I know is my soul mate.This season, we are living in Chiba, Japan, and the situation is exactly the same.Without friends or family here, I've gotten to know myself better than I ever thought possible and watched more TV series from start to finish than a normal person would watch in a year.Participating at the Game Supporting Him as a Player Learning the Game Dealing with Drawbacks Community Q&A Dating a football player means you have to negotiate a relationship around all the practices, games, and schoolwork.It can be a big commitment for an athlete to be in a relationship, so keep in mind that your guy might be feeling conflicted about his commitment to you and to the game.A few months ago, as I sat alone in a three-bedroom apartment in Cantù, Italy, a small town outside of Milan, I scrolled through my Instagram requests. A young girl, who looked about 14 years old, requested to follow me.