That's not to say race isn't an issue--it definitely is--but I think it's less important than people think.Indians can be just as racist towards each other as they are of outsiders.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! I think in 5 months months I've stayed there while she is there 3 times..I sleep in the extra bed room.
Okay, summary time: I think that pretty much sums it up for a lot of parents.
More than race, the issue in interracial dating tends to be about culture.
But regardless, there is definitely a double-standard within most Indian families, with respect to their daughters dating.
As I said, it tends not to be discussed, but there's a general feeling that you "shouldn't" and the most oft-cited reason is that dating is a distraction from schoolwork, and/or that high school or college boys are bad influences.
(*Trying not to laugh*)All right, this question amused me enough without offending me, so I'm going to take a stab at it.
I'll use this as an opportunity to hash out several issues, but bear with me because I will answer the question asked eventually." (let me interject, we do not sleep together at his house when she is home.) this was said while passing thru, and I was totally ignored by her..has popped off in the past stuff like, Well, I AM his kid".... Now my questions are: Do I address these remarks with her(as we have had a great relationship, talking, etc) or with her daddy and let him talk to her? If it's the former, then I really can't blame her for feeling put-upon and I don't think you have any right at all to feel disrespected. This past weekend she was supposed to go to her moms, and on those occasions(when we have the house alone) we do sleep together, however, when she is home, we do not. And it's been when we had plans that kept us out late.If it's the latter, then your guy needs to have a sit-down heart-to-heart with his daughter and find out what's going on. as I've never had to deal with this my parents have been married for 48 years... I just don't see how a child can try to control a parents love life, I respect her home and her things and her time alone with her dad...shouldn't she do the same? Anyway, I see three related issues that lie at the heart of this question, and they all build on each other: All right, so let's talk about dating in general.The reality is that most Indian-American parents tend to avoid the issue all together, at least where it concerns their daughters. Asking my mom to buy pads for me in middle school was the most awkward thing ever.I personally know at least two married Indian female-black male couples, and all the parents involved seem okay with it.