This is a bit of a subconscious thing with men, and although we think we want to spend the night at your place after a first date, in the cold light of the morning after we will be relieved that it didn’t happen.
Forget Facebook – If you want to let your friends know how much you loved that latte on the way to work this morning, or share a photo of the most adorable kitten playing a guitar that’s well and good.
Don’t call him everyday – It may from time to time seem as though the male half of the population hasn’t fully grasped the concept of staying in touch but trust me we know how to call you when you haven’t called us.
Do women have it a lot easier than men, and do hot people in general have it the easiest? Millward created 10 fake OKCupid profiles with similar sounding usernames, with the same written profile, personal stats, level of education, etc. Each account had a different photo of a man or woman of varying attractiveness.
However, it’s always good to back up hypotheses with facts, and that’s what Jon Millward did with this experiment, posted on his eponymous blog.
“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people.
Every man and woman online still has criteria that must be met by people who want to date him or her, and every guy and girl is still in direct competition with every other person of their gender…
Think carefully about inviting us back after a first date – Yes, we might well ask you but that doesn’t necessarily mean we want you to say yes.
A kiss on your doorstep is enough to reassure us that you are interested but if you invite us in for the night we will start to wonder if this happens to every guy you date.
Do your own thing – Never make us the centre of your world.
Men love doing their own thing, and they love a woman who does her own thing even more.
He has laid all his cards on the table without even realising it.
Now you know he’s taking this thing seriously and you can probably stop calling it dating and start using the word relationship.
Of course, there are men out there that will disagree but the vast majority of us are scared stiff of the future.