While women may get an ego boost when they receive 30-100 messages in any given week, nobody really wishes to have that much admin to sift through.And when 80% of the messages are either, you can’t really blame them for not responding to most messages—even if you personalize your mails.So many flavours and tastes to experience, they become inundated with choice to the point that they just don’t know what they want anymore. Rejection is a massive part of life and is a prerequisite for success in any domain—however, that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t or shouldn’t affect us.
It got to the point that she had to state explicitly on her profile: The messages never stopped. She seemed compelled to find out what vitriol I had spouted.
I came along, read her profile and out of everything she mentioned, I decided to pick on that and use it as “ammo”to start a conversation. Much to her surprise, it was a comment in favour of something she wrote on her profile which caught my eye—rather than putting it in the message box, I put it in the title to grab her attention, and up till this day, I have kept it.
Keeping everything else equal, I wanted to confirm whether there was a correlation with income and the number of responses I received. Just digging deep into some code, whilst watching the latest episode of ‘Suits’. You shouldn’t be surprised if an unwanted visitor knocks on your door, or commits an act of theft in the night.
The moment I turned the dial to $100k (I don’t earn this much), I received a message. Ahh, no worries, the income stated on my profile is incorrect anyways. Moral of this story: If you earn a lot of money, but you want to find someone who will love you for the qualities you bring to the table first, don’t boast about your income, as you will only attract a leech who isn’t even faintly interested in your character.
From childhood, men have been brought up to be fierce competitors, to opt for the most risky jobs, to put themselves on the line, to accept rejection “like a man” and to always make the first move.
This product of social conditioning rears its ugly head online even more so, as an average of seven men compete for the attention of one woman.You follow their advice, only to realize that not only are people not responding to your messages, they’re not even opening them.What is the point crafting a well-thought out message if it doesn’t get opened, or worse, seen?Especially when you get rejected countless times, with or without reason.Ideally, you want to use it to complement and augment your existing chances of finding a partner.Norwegians are the most accepted with a 49 per cent combined success rate.