What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.
Silly logic aside, I would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing I asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you EXCLUSIVE and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?
Until the conversation happens, I would say it is fair for a guy to keep his profile up.
If you have agreed to be exclusive, things are easy: you just need to ask him to take it down!
If you haven’t agreed to be exclusive, I feel this is the point that the relationship would need to reach before you would be in a position of strength to ask that the profile be removed.
You’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising.
You decided to meet and on your first date things go great.I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.I even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up.I wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). I do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy: I have been dating a man I met on for about 6 weeks – we go out regularly and he is always quick to make plans with me.Addressing the Active Profile Issue with Tact First off, let me say that this guy’s “reason” for keeping his profile online makes absolutely no sense to me.