It can be really scary to have a conversation with someone that you just started dating because you're so worried that the other person will judge you in that moment.
But I personally try to never do that anymore, because it's not something that you should be apologizing for.
It's just part of being with you, a part of your life. It's made me a great partner, and I will do the best that I can in terms of keeping that person safe. ED: Unfortunately, there's no way to "hack" dating with an STI.
ED: When I was diagnosed, the person I was dating was the classic college boy.
He was really freaked out and quite worried about his reputation and people thinking that he had herpes.
It's hard sometimes to vocalize those things, and it's sometimes scary to look at someone's face when doing that.
My only caution with that would be: Always be confident before you put something in writing, because people screenshot things.Ella Dawson: Now, when I date, I have to have a conversation about the fact that I have an STI.That used to really freak me out, especially in the beginning when I was newly diagnosed and still learning about the virus and very self-conscious about it.MC: How do you tell a potential partner that you have herpes? What I say is "Hey, this is something that you should know about me.A few years ago I contacted this STI and it's relatively easily preventable if we use condoms and I will always tell you if there's something that you should know, like if I'm having an outbreak or anything like that.Once I left that relationship I realized that he had been treating me in a way that was really inexcusable, and decided that nobody gets to make you feel worthless.