It’s a chilling idea, and one that I think has certainly created some reluctance toward dating.Harris’ book, and the many others like it in the ’90s and early 2000s, were written in reaction to society’s increasingly casual approach to love, sex and relationships—all of which are, by their nature, not meant to be casual.
It’s a problem that will require all of our courage, confidence and creativity to solve.
It’s a problem that affects many of our brothers in Christ—it might even be affecting you.
A number of problematic attitudes crept into Christian culture.
So if you’re contemplating asking someone out for coffee, you don’t need to be quietly weighing her merits as the bearer of your progeny (in fact, it’s probably better that you aren’t).
The only way you’re going to be able to do that is if you’re dating them.
Maybe there’s someone who’s been one your mind while you read this post; a girl who, now that I mention it, has been on your mind a fair bit lately; a beautiful, holy woman that you haven’t yet had the courage to pursue.You can just be thinking, I’d like to get to know this girl better, I should ask her on a date. We consider relationships for weeks or even months before making a move.If we start dating, we feel like the relationship has to be heading directly toward marriage.That kind of dating shouldn’t have this fear of losing part of ourselves hanging over it.It should just be a healthy, enjoyable way of determining whether you want to start a romantic relationship with someone.I did a year of missionary work after high school and was intentionally single throughout.