I know many Greek friends who have “settled” for less-than-satisfying Greek men who are full embodiments of Odysseus or Jason.
Yet I did not want to compromise my self respect or settle for a spoiled overbearing Greek which tended to be my lot with most of the Greek men I met.
And I got tired waiting such a long time for a balanced, egalitarian marriage partner who I also had chemistry for to come around.
Calm the impulses of passion, and quench the fiery darts of evil which are treacherously cast against us.
Check the turbulence of our flesh and lull all our earthly and mundane thoughts.
I have tried to replicate I them what I have hoped to accomplish in myself as a hyphenated American.
I never wanted to “greekness” to fade away into a barf shade of grey.We're one of the oldest and best known dating communities on the web, and we have a unique, and very popular, secret weapon - our intelligent two-way matching feature.It's successfully launched thousands of happy and lasting relationships. As women socialized in less patriarchal cultures, such as the US, this sort of double- standard becomes absolutely unacceptable. Therein lies the conflict for a Hellenic woman of the diaspora– how much does she sacrifice staying true to the traditions of her culture by marrying someone out of her cultural pool and how much does she sacrifice of her own dignity by conforming to the stereotype of the assumed Greek macho man?In other words, do you settle for a Greek s-o-b just to keep the balance and socially more acceptable harmony of a Greek home?Personally, because I value my own self respect more than keeping up with the Pappas’ both times I have chosen to marry non Greeks. I have managed to promote a very real sense of Greek pride in them by teaching them Greek literature and Greek language, entrenching them in Greek values and a living Orthodoxy, and by taking them to Greece whenever possible.