So, I’m pleased to share with you some expert thoughts on the subject…I knew I’d get some interesting feedback, and they did not disappoint.
Jack from F*cking in Brooklyn, who I love to follow because his honesty leaps off the page.
That is, if they were to approach a woman (at a bar, coffeeshop, whatever), what attracts them in the first place, and what turns them off?
I always had a hard time figuring out what motivates a man to approach and hang around (besides a woman’s “hotness”, but I think there is more going on)…do we send out the wrong signals and not even know it?
It’s unfortunate that our culture is so weight-obsessed when the problem isn’t really weight itself, it’s fat. For most men, runway models are way too skinny to be considered an ideal body type.
Yes, clothes look good on runway models, but aspiring to look like one is not only extreme, it’s also unnecessary.
They had hundreds of men look at pictures of women’s bodies and rate them according to which they found the most attractive.
Then, hundreds of women looked at these same pictures and rated how they than what the women believed to be the ideal weight that men want.
I’m going to skip the obvious (she’s hot) because there’s nothing superficial millions of years of behavioral programming. Anyway, I’m a guy of simple tastes, at least I think I am and it doesn’t take much to get my attention. Turn Ons Fishy from Plenty More Fishoutof Water, because really, who doesn’t enjoy reading his posts?
The realm of women I find physically attractive is fairly spacious; but finding the combination of qualities that truly attract me in one woman, is rare. Obviously a woman disrobing in front of me is a great way to get my attention, but let’s face it ladies, you’re not going to pony up and show me the goods right off the bat. Small nipples and escaping from dates through bathroom windows aside, he is one intriguing writer: Biggest turn offs Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA.
So don’t fear putting on muscle – a little bit of muscle actually looks good on women.
Despite lower body fat % and the fact that some muscle on a woman is ideal, most women avoid it because muscle weighs more than fat (by volume).
This is from The Urban Dater, who makes me laugh and reflect at the same time…is that possible? She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her.