It’s important to remember that ideas about dating are totally different in China.
In the West, dating is seen as something you can do casually (at least in the beginning).
Something that will only result in long term commitment or marriage if those feelings develop.
It’s perfectly acceptable to date someone without the end goal being marriage.
Asian men are either portrayed as celibate, pure, martial arts heroes or one dimensional token minorities.
The idea of Asian men as sexual beings doesn’t really exist in the Western public consciousness.
Unfortunately, idiotic myths and stereotypes about Chinese men’s inability to satisfy the insatiable libidos of Western women abound both in China and the West.
Bear in mind that while he’s presumably open minded and intelligent enough not to believe them, he may be slightly intimidated.So scarce, in fact, that Jocelyn Eikenburg, an American who has been married to a Chinese man for several years, has written a successful blog, and even been interviewed by the BBC about this "phenomenon".First of all, it’s important to think about the reasons why the Western woman/ Chinese man pairing is so rare.This also has an upside as the awkward conversations and game playing that tend to occur in Western relationships often don’t exist.If you’re having sex with them, they’re your boyfriend. Chinese men, especially those in their early twenties, may also be less sexually experienced than you, so you might want to take that into consideration before you pounce.However, in China, marriage is an inevitability; it’s not a questions of if, but when, so people are often looking for something stable from the start.