“When a couple gets married, they have unlimited choices for their reception, and, as a result, the couple [often] spends more time and money and concern over the party than the wedding Mass or preparing for the rest of their lives through the sacrament of marriage,” he said.
In contrast to secular sites like OKCupid.com, which offers quizzes on sexual habits and histories, Catholic sites have questionnaires on user’s beliefs about contraception, confession, the Eucharist and papal infallibility.
Users are encouraged to elaborate about faith: On Catholic Match, they can list favorite saints and specify liturgical preferences.
Of course not; it is about establishing and restoring balance.” With dating sites, the answer is not to “reject the tool,” but to educate people in how to properly use it, Barcaro said.
Catholic Match does just that, with a blog that features dating Q and As, meditations on faith and love, summaries of Church teachings and inspirational stories of Catholic couples.
“I think one of the biggest problems or dangers is that of treating another human being as something you can ‘shop for’ based on a list of traits and qualities,” West said.
“The great dignity of being human is that every human person is incomparable, totally unique and unrepeatable.
The site has a free “Guide to Online Dating,” and it has launched the Catholic Match Institute for Dating and Marriage to combat declining marriage rates among Catholics.
“The decline in Catholics getting married in the Church is undeniable, but it seems a stretch to blame online dating,” Barcaro said.
Using Online Tools Properly Catholic Match discourages members from having a shopping mentality.