Post-apology bliss is fertile ground to rebuild and rework new relationship hiccups.
It’s okay to say, ‘When you told me that, I believed you.’ For many, pursuing accountability means we are somehow agreeing to leave happiness behind. A provocative, yet gentle, approach can take time to get comfortable with—much less an abrasive blame-fest with casualties.
Perception is a known band-aid for the heart and soul.
Used with the intention to ‘feel better,’ we can opt to see just about anything we need to out of any given situation in order to survive.
It sometimes keeps us afloat in life’s unfamiliar, unfriendly and unsafe waters.
The trouble with wearing rose tinted glasses during a promising courtship, however, is it can set up a faulty foundation for lasting trust.
Beyond a connection based on deep personal truths that allow love to grow and thrive, conscious relationships are steeped in a shared understanding and respect for the truth. It can be bowed by philosophy, mood, memory (or lack thereof) or emotional obstacles.
While positive affirmations, mantras and committing to a positive point of view can create magnetism for a collective overly-identified with being ‘nice’ rather than ‘human,’ it may not be so helpful when seeking a level romantic playing field.Observing a loved one attempting to remedy wounds from the outside in—in hopes of catching the big party or not missing the birthday—often falls short of our expectations and theirs.Differentiating a partner who is invested in from someone not yet ready is an invaluable skill, all while making discoveries and developing an exchange that reflects the shared perceptions, ideas and dreams.It’s important for lovers to be able to share when trust is shaken and as important to be in a receptive space, better understanding what choices lead to flowery promises and frustration.Mutuality and kindness outweigh monetary struggles and is a gift worth its weight in gold; however, that takes time, intention and patience.When two people realize an initial harmless date has lead to a meaningful connection, what they share about who they are, what their interests are and what they value in their life matters a great deal.