Perhaps she’s even giving you mixed signals, at times pushing you away and at times wanting you near. In fact, repeatedly re-engaging your ex and suffering through the consequences is not sustainable strategy for you nor is it for anyone. It is not a weapon you can use to wage war with your ex nor does it magically inject happiness into your life. No contact is about reclaiming control and responsibility over that area of your life.No contact is about accepting that you are no longer connected to your ex-girlfriend and letting go of the connection you once shared.
Going no contact forever is an incredibly daunting idea.
How are you supposed to never talk to or see this other person again, when you still long for them? Go no contact for 30 days and observe how it changes the way you think, see and feel.
But your body doesn’t “know” that the mode of interaction with your ex-girlfriend has changed. By going no contact you will slowly but surely convince your brain that you and your ex are not getting back together.
The scientific explanation is that you’re feeling withdrawal symptoms to a love addiction.
You are now, all of a sudden, an addict displaying some of the worst and most intense withdrawal symptoms, longing for another hit of the addictive substance: .
Not surprisingly, the best thing to do is to abstain from the addictive substance.
Renowned anthropologist Helen Fisher did an experiment where the brain activity in recently dumped college students was monitored while they were given pictures of their exes to look at.
Turn out viewing a picture would light up their brains like fireworks, eliciting a strong emotional response.
If she really loves you, she’ll find a way to get in touch with you.