I told him this and you know I still don't think it has sunk in.
He IM'd me the other day-day before school actually-and couldn't figure out why I wasn't all that chatty-even after I told him what the next day was.
but i can see how it would frustrating with last minute plans.
I also relied on family members only to watch my older son when I was dating, and my experience was that some men thought that because they are family, I could get them to watch my son at a moment's notice (as in, they would call and say "I'm free tonight, can you be? Unfortunately, it was difficult to explain that it doesn't work that way. so one person who doesn't have children expected you to move water for them. that is my opinion and you may do with it as you please.
I suppose I am different as well in that if a man doesn't want to firm up plans at least two days in advance, chances are he will find that i am not available, even if I am. Unless of course he has a VERY valid reason, ie-he is trying to arrange a babysitter as well. for any man with or without children as very rarely they are full time parents like us mom's... You are a mother to your children and I would imagine that this individual has a mother themselves. If someone cannot accept nor understand and keeps putting up a tantrum and is inconsiderate to you and your famly such as not getting back to you within a reasonable time frame... I would think as a single parent you would want less stress in your life.. You put your foot down on issues where your children are concerned why not with the men in your life? it is an attempted relationship that will go nowhere. I'm not saying that all individual's who are not parents can't get along with nor date individual's who are parents. You will find someone that you will be happy with and possibly be able to have a great life with. The woman I was dating was in the same situation as you... She relied on family and a group of family-oriented friends to watch her child.
who finds it difficult to date me or anyone who has a child full time and cannot respect that one cannot leave on a whim to do something outside of the home especially without the child/ren in tow well.. I had no problem spending time with her and her child -- none at all.
It was something to get used to by sinking in, and adjusting to her fear of other people saying "no" to her toddler, and myself having watered-down "wtf" thoughts about what she had no problem letting her kid do or act. My problem was being only to spend time with her and her family members.
It's bad enough I raise the curiosity of family members who want to know "everything about this person" but worse when that person doesn't respond in a timely fashion so as to make all this fuss unworthwhile.
In case you're wondering why I put myself in the position of depending on family members, I have had some good babysitters affiliated with my child's daycare but their life plans have taken them out of town or home to their own province after time and the current situation leaves me depending on family members. A couple of the single dads I have gone out with seem to be more understanding of the fact that not only do I have a child but the issues I have with him on some degree due to his special needs.
Also, with your babysitters evaporating, have you tried contacting any area churches?
There are several high school girls in my church that babysit for many of the parishioners.
So I find it a bit frustrating when a gentleman who is family oriented but has no children of their own, takes their sweet time in responding in terms of setting up a weekend evening date.