We go on one date and immediately want to be in an exclusive relationship.
A lot of us also make the mistake of dating the wrong person for us.
If we’re filling the relationship space, we can lose the forest for the trees.
Taking a break from dating men
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About the Author: Melissa Maher Melissa Maher is a Certified Professional Life Coach who takes a mindful approach to helping busy-brained women live in the moment, express their desires unapologetically, and love the bodies (and selves) they’re in today.
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You can’t go around dating a ton of different people.
If you do, you’ll never find someone worth spending your life with.
Here are 22 ways to know if it may be time for you to take a much-needed break from dating and redirect your energy elsewhere for a while. When you are out shopping and the cashier tells you to swipe your credit card, you ask, "Left or right? You have 104 matches on Tinder but are sitting home on a Saturday night because there is no one in the world worth dating. There are six guys in your phone's contacts bearing the same name and you say a small prayer each time you send a text that you have sent it to the right one. Reduce, Reuse, Recycle is your dating philosophy, not an anti-pollution slogan. When you are matched with someone new, you become excited because the guy's got a different name from those of the legions you have already dated. You automatically disqualify a guy based on whether or not you like his name or because of its negative connotation for you. You resort to posting a picture of yourself online with an exotic animal like all of those other "idiots" you used to laugh about. You realize guys actually find said picture of you interesting and now believe you have wasted valuable resources all of this time. When you look through your phone's contacts, you do not remember who some of the guys are but are certain you dated them. You keep repeating to your date, "Did I tell you this story already? You are tempted to refer a new date to your blog's URL so you need not waste time repeating your life story yet again. You fear meeting exes on the street while on a date in New York City. Every time a relationship ends you push a mental reset button on your wardrobe and wistfully wonder if you will ever be lucky enough to repeat an outfit with the same guy. You are worried the train conductor on NJ Transit has seen you wearing the same dress twice in a week because (a) you have and (b) you and the conductor are now on a first-name basis. Before dates you catch yourself singing, "The time was six o'clock on the Swatch watch, no time to chill, got a date, can't be late." (Bell Biv De Voe, "Do Me") 16.
You develop mnemonic devices to help remember where the guy you are dating lives.
So if dating has started to feel like an awful lot of hard work these days, it might be time for a break.