When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog This Is Your Conscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine.
Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass".
Dating is often referred to as a game in which we compete to get the attention of a potential, or current lover.
Reality television shows based on dating competition such as “The Bachelorette” help us grasp the idea that mate competition, or intersexual selection, is an evolutionary process.
So we date these women and eventually we find ourselves loving the nani and maybe even enjoying her company BUT, not seeing her as wife-material – and then she asks the fatalnd most men will be DAMNED if they will leave a woman just because she wants the one thing from them that they are unable to provide: a relationship. They decide to juggle women using the DELAY tactic.
This is done by being non-committal yet keeping the woman in a constant state of confusion by acting one way and speaking the next.
So, is wanting what we can’t have a mating strategy we’ve adopted?
Evolutionary theorists have often focused on competition when it comes to mate selection.
Half of the women were told the man was single, while the other half were told he was in a relationship.
The photographs were the same across all participants.
You have to keep playing the game (harder and harder) to mimic the high,” she said.
Our brain responds strongly to the unpredictability of the unattainable.
It’s a mating tactic that gives people the impression that they are ostensibly uninterested to get others to desire them more.